I am a Pastor Dad. Now, at first glance, you might think of that as simply describing reality. I am … Continue reading Being a Pastor Dad Makes Me a Better Pastor
I have often felt alone as a special needs parent. It is a lonely journey. You spend most of your … Continue reading Do Not Forget Special Needs Fathers
I have a confession to make. I am a father who does not like Father’s Day.
It’s not because of the ugly ties or coffee mugs that seem to be the favorite gifts on this day, but it is because of something much deeper and more important for me. I do not like Father’s Day, because it reminds me of the pain of never knowing my own father and having a difficult, perhaps sometimes abusive, relationship with my step-father.
Most of Father’s Day, for me, is about getting through the day. It is a busy day of celebration and worship, but one where I try not to think about my own hurt or loss. Even as I am now a father and enjoy nothing more than being with my son on Father’s Day, I still struggle with finding a reason to celebrate on the Third Sunday of June.
I know I am not alone. Father’s Day is difficult for many, either because of fathers who are no longer present or fathers who were not fathers to their children. If you are like me, though, you are asking how do we celebrate this day for fathers when our fathers were never there? Continue reading “Celebrating Father’s Day When You Don’t Want to Celebrate”
We have a fatherhood problem. This is not a new realization. For decades, we have struggled with the problem of … Continue reading We Need to Appreciate and Equip Men to Be Fathers
I’m talking about the birth of our son, whom we have affectionately nicknamed “Little PK” until we announce his name. Tonight, my wife will be induced and will begin the long process of labor, which will lead to the miracle of the birth of our first child.
We are excited. We are anxious. We are nervous. We are tired. We are everything you could imagine, and much more.
Personally, I find myself reflective today. This isn’t much of a surprise. I tend to be a very reflective person. My reflections are on lessons have learned over the course of this 9-month journey. These are lessons based on my experience as a father-to-be who is anxiously waiting to hold our son and teach him the “First Down Cheer.”
What follows are a few of the lessons I, and truly my wife, have learned. Continue reading “Adjusting to Being a Dad: Lessons I’ve Learned the Past 39 Weeks”